Have you found yourself negotiating with your child to just stop to ask yourself why am I doing this, then just yell out, because I said so. You are definitely not alone.
Studies now show that negotiating with your child does has its benefits. Teaching them how to negotiate properly, may drive you crazy, however it will benefit your child as they get older.
Encourage them to challenge your thinking while staying neutral about theirs. By listening for a moment you can also learn what is important to your child, which actually helps you.
Instead of dictating your needs, goals and or concerns, help them to understand either the who, what, where, when, or why of what you are asking. Because I said so does not work as easily as it used to with this generation, they are more inquisitive and want to understand EVERYTHING. Consequently them understanding your position is definitely more influential than the old school way of “because I said so!
Most importantly, negotiating does not take a way your right as a parent to have the final word, what it does is help your child think about how to properly and effectively discuss their own needs . So the next time you want to yell off the top your lungs because I said so, take a moment to listen it may help.
Try it and send me your feedback.
Negotiating skills are necessary for most life situations.